A thought struck me today as I was getting into the car that I wanted to share with you. It may not be up there with “Four score and seven years ago” but it may make you think!
Here we go!
“You can make change for a dollar but you can’t make a dollar change. A dollar is a dollar and always will be a dollar no matter how much you want it to change. You can however, make change for a dollar.”
The person you love or fell in love with is what they are. Because of our fears, judgments, preconceived notions and upbringing, we often have the idea of what they “should” be and that given time, we can change them.
More often than not, that leads to a lot of issues, stress, pressure and negative emotions as potential outcomes that can then lead to heated arguments, separation, divorce or worse.
We can however, make change for them. Maybe the change is accepting them without judgment, for what they are. Will we always be happy? Of course not!
In my experience, I’ve learned that the more I accept the differences without assumptions, judgment and the desire to change the other person, the happier I am. The more awareness I have that if I desire a change in another, I need to make the changes in myself.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul