Have you ever assumed that the person you love should know what you are thinking – Even before you say anything?
Have you ever thought they should know what you want because they know you so well?
If so, how often are you right? I don’t know about you but, in my own experience, when I think I know what Brenda is saying, I’m typically wrong. Even when I’m close, it’s far enough off that I might as well be miles away. Many times in our relationship, it led to conflict, discomfort or arguments. What happens is that one of us tries to defend our assumptions. We want to be right and prove our reality is the “correct one,” even though it’s somewhat of an illusion. We end shoveling ourselves deeper into a hole.
What do we do to change this around for greater love and peace? I think it comes down to three things: 1. Don’t make assumptions; 2. Ask what the other person is feeling; 3. Tell them what we are thinking or feeling.
It really comes down to communications and it can be the difference between a conversation and a conflict.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul