Archive for Roses on the Windshield
Express love to yourself
Posted by: | CommentsTake a moment and think of the most
beautiful rose you’ve ever seen. The soft
texture, the delicate veins that were
transporting life through the petals, the
subtle variations in color and the
magnificent fragrance.
Do you see it? Can you smell and feel it?
Is it still in your memory? Can you see how
the beauty of the rose now only exists
because of you? You can describe it, maybe
you can paint or draw a picture of it.
The beauty of the rose is in you. The love
it represents is in you. That’s because you
are beauty and you are love.
I hope you see that as clearly as the truth
it represents because you deserve to know
the truth of what you are. I can see it in
you.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Express Love by Writing Down what you love about him or her
Posted by: | CommentsI’m a big believer in the Law of Attraction (LOA). Over the past year, I’ve expressed and strengthened my love to Brenda in many ways. One has been with this site and with everything related to Roses on the Windshield.
When I take the time to write about my love and how wonderful it is, I’m manifesting a better relationship. Last year, I started writing down the things I’m grateful for. Many law of attraction and success books recommend it and I finally started doing it about a year ago. I always end my list with gratitude for Brenda and our love.
I’m normally the first to get up in the morning and write in my journal and gratitude book before Brenda is up. The result is that when I see her first thing, it’s with thoughts of happiness and gratitude. The LOA brings us both the expectation and manifestation of love. If you haven’t given this a try, you may enjoy the results!
With Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Rose of the Day – In the Living Years
Posted by: | CommentsThis video is by Mike and the Mechanics. The founder of the band is Mike Rutherford, lead guitarist and one of the founding members of the band Genesis.
This song is about his wishing he had been able to come to terms with his father before he died. It’s one of my favorite songs. I really like the melody but the lyrics are incredibly powerful. For me, the lyrics go beyond the father-son relationship to our relationships with anybody we love.
The few times I’ve been at the bedside of a loved one, my final words were about the love and the feelings I had for the person. Others I’ve observed seem to be saying the same thing. If we are fortunate enough to have the chance to say final words, we do so.
What if the opportunity for final reconciliation never presents itself? How will the news affect me? Will I have regrets or will I feel some peace knowing the last words I said were along the lines of “I love you, I forgive you, I’m sorry, You are important to me” or some other positive words?
It seems that if our last words are harsh, there’s a good chance they may not be buried with the person, instead, they will continue to live in our hearts as regrets. At some time, we may realize we are forgiven, and always were.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
PS – Maybe Roses on the Windshield Day is the perfect day to heal the wounds and start the habit of insuring the last words are ones we won’t regret.
Rose of the Day – Can you change a dollar?
Posted by: | CommentsA thought struck me today as I was getting into the car that I wanted to share with you. It may not be up there with “Four score and seven years ago” but it may make you think!
Here we go!
“You can make change for a dollar but you can’t make a dollar change. A dollar is a dollar and always will be a dollar no matter how much you want it to change. You can however, make change for a dollar.”
The person you love or fell in love with is what they are. Because of our fears, judgments, preconceived notions and upbringing, we often have the idea of what they “should” be and that given time, we can change them.
More often than not, that leads to a lot of issues, stress, pressure and negative emotions as potential outcomes that can then lead to heated arguments, separation, divorce or worse.
We can however, make change for them. Maybe the change is accepting them without judgment, for what they are. Will we always be happy? Of course not!
In my experience, I’ve learned that the more I accept the differences without assumptions, judgment and the desire to change the other person, the happier I am. The more awareness I have that if I desire a change in another, I need to make the changes in myself.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Roses on the Windshield Day
Posted by: | CommentsAnnouncing the first annual Roses on the Windshield Day
A day to show and share love.
A day to show a person you love what they really mean to you.
A chance to make someone smile and feel good.
Roses on the Windshield
Expressing love as a way of living
Posted by: | CommentsThis video from my friend Marie captures the essence of Roses on the Windshield. It truly shows the value of the little things we do to show our love for each other. Thank you Marie!
PS – I should add that Marie and David are the owners of Sally Lee Candles and created the Roses on the Windshield Romance Candle Collection for us, which you can see by clicking on the candles to the right.
What “Should” You Say? A Rose of the Day
Posted by: | CommentsSeveral years ago, I read something that dramatically affected the way I think. I followed the suggestion and found it to be one of the most spiritual liberating moments of my life. The suggestion was actually rather simple: Remove the phrase “You should” from your vocabulary.
Every time we say, “You should, he should, she should or they should,” it’s the same as passing or making a judgment. We’re saying, “I know what is better or best,” even though it is through our own lenses, prejudices and realities, which may or may not be appropriate for the other person, people or group.
At the beginning, you may find it to be a bit of a challenge but the more you practice refraining from passing judgment with the word “Should,” the more peace you will find with yourself. It happened to me and I’ll readily admit I used freely tell all others what was best for them and what they should have been doing or saying.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Daily Rose – Your Harshest Critic Needs to be Loved
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All of us are worthy of love
Have you ever noticed that the better you feel about yourself, the happier you are?
For most of us, our harshest critic is the one person we see more than anbody else. We see them every time we look in the mirror and hear them every time we have a thought. Of course, the person is ourselves. In your entire life, it is quite unlikely that anybody has said more abusive and harsher things about you than you have.
We have the need to be accepted and loved not only by others, but also by ourselves. The more you are able to love yourself (I’m not speaking of narcissistic self absorption but of true acceptance of who we are) the easier it is to accept, feel and grow in the love of another.
When you hear the inner voice of the critic faulting you for not living up to artificial standards of perfection just tell them, “Hey, I’m a pretty good person who deserves love and I don’t want to hear you putting me down!”
Do you remember the cartoon of a little child who is saying to another person, “I know I’m good because God made me and God don’t make junk!” Next time the inner critic starts saying bad things about you, let your inner child tell him or here why they are wrong.
Love and Roses on your Windshield.
Paul
Our image of perfection
Posted by: | CommentsSo often, we are raised with an image of perfection. Coming from from family and society.
Then along comes a magic moment. It appears in all it’s splendor as special person. Love. Bliss and happiness. “I want to spend all of my time with Her/Him.”
A bit of comfort and familiarity may set in and a thought may creep into the mind. The realization that they don’t really fit our image of perfection. It may be a defining moment in a relationship.
We can experience real love by accepting the other person the way they are without trying to change them or we can admit we don’t love them the way they are and try to change them.
One choice leads to deeper love, the other leads to pain. It’s a fork in the road. Which path will you take?
Love and Roses on the Windshield,
Paul
The Strongest Love is Allowed to Grow
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Have you ever watched the Travel Channel show Road Trip? A couple of friends head out and drive around the country exploring cities, towns and natural wonders.
I watched an episode yesterday with a segment about dog sledding in Vermont. The dog and sled owner said his dogs frequently lived past the age of 20 (in people years!). As long as they were running and sledding, they enjoyed life and lived to the fullest.
It got me thinking about love and relationships. It seems that a love where two people allow the other to grow and achieve their fullest potential will be the strongest. It’s when we try to control the other person’s growth that the love gets stifled.
Maybe that’s one of the main reasons people get divorced after one person retires. The new retiree expects the other to suddenly stop their living and growing to take care of their needs.
Obviously, there are a lot of other factors at work here but for a love to grow and flourish, the lives of the individuals must also grow and flourish and be allowed to realize their potential.
With Love and Roses on the Windshield,
Paul
