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Rose of the Day – The Power of Your Words
Posted by: | CommentsWe must understand the power of what comes out of our mouths.
The words we use can not only have an impact on the feelings of others but may also have a lifelong impact. An insult or snide remark to a person already full of fears and insecurities may be internalized as a truth by them. A kind, gentle or loving comment may change their entire outlook on life.
When I was younger, I often was fairly free with words that could hurt. During those days, I also seemed to carry a lot more anger and insecurities. As I’ve gotten older and am more careful with my words and choose to use more positive and loving language, I find that I’m a lot more at peace with myself.
You may have heard the saying, “Be sure that your words run through your brain before they leave your mouth.” I think it’s good to also let them pass through our hearts.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Rose of the Day – In the Living Years
Posted by: | CommentsThis video is by Mike and the Mechanics. The founder of the band is Mike Rutherford, lead guitarist and one of the founding members of the band Genesis.
This song is about his wishing he had been able to come to terms with his father before he died. It’s one of my favorite songs. I really like the melody but the lyrics are incredibly powerful. For me, the lyrics go beyond the father-son relationship to our relationships with anybody we love.
The few times I’ve been at the bedside of a loved one, my final words were about the love and the feelings I had for the person. Others I’ve observed seem to be saying the same thing. If we are fortunate enough to have the chance to say final words, we do so.
What if the opportunity for final reconciliation never presents itself? How will the news affect me? Will I have regrets or will I feel some peace knowing the last words I said were along the lines of “I love you, I forgive you, I’m sorry, You are important to me” or some other positive words?
It seems that if our last words are harsh, there’s a good chance they may not be buried with the person, instead, they will continue to live in our hearts as regrets. At some time, we may realize we are forgiven, and always were.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
PS – Maybe Roses on the Windshield Day is the perfect day to heal the wounds and start the habit of insuring the last words are ones we won’t regret.
The hardest thing to afford
Posted by: | CommentsSometimes, I’ll look back through my life and think of the all of the things
I may have purchased or accumulated. Many of them were planned purchases and I got others on the “spur of the moment.”
Some of them were inexpensive and others were fairly large investments. Some were great purchases and others raise the question, “What the heck was I thinking about when I got that?”
Overall though, no regrets, except for one thing…
That one thing is free, easy to get and sometimes hard to get rid of. When I do get rid of them, I’m much happier because I’ve become very aware that, even though they are free, they are also VERY expensive.
What I least afford is my Rose to you today and I hope it gives you a bit to think about. I can’t afford resentments.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Rose of the Day – Can you change a dollar?
Posted by: | CommentsA thought struck me today as I was getting into the car that I wanted to share with you. It may not be up there with “Four score and seven years ago” but it may make you think!
Here we go!
“You can make change for a dollar but you can’t make a dollar change. A dollar is a dollar and always will be a dollar no matter how much you want it to change. You can however, make change for a dollar.”
The person you love or fell in love with is what they are. Because of our fears, judgments, preconceived notions and upbringing, we often have the idea of what they “should” be and that given time, we can change them.
More often than not, that leads to a lot of issues, stress, pressure and negative emotions as potential outcomes that can then lead to heated arguments, separation, divorce or worse.
We can however, make change for them. Maybe the change is accepting them without judgment, for what they are. Will we always be happy? Of course not!
In my experience, I’ve learned that the more I accept the differences without assumptions, judgment and the desire to change the other person, the happier I am. The more awareness I have that if I desire a change in another, I need to make the changes in myself.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
The most prescious gift
Posted by: | CommentsI heard a quote today that I thought you would enjoy.
“Of all the gifts his maker has bestowed upon man, none is more precious than his ability to love another.”
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
PS – My good friend Harry Shade will be interviewing me on his radio show this evening to discuss Roses on the Windshield and Roses on the Windshield Day. I hope you can join us. Here are the details:
Blog Talk radio show, this Wednesday, 9/12/09, @ 10p, EST (GMT -4). http://tinyurl.com/lsh8jx or call in @ 914-338-0231 and share your “roses” story.
Roses on the Windshield Day
Posted by: | CommentsAnnouncing the first annual Roses on the Windshield Day
A day to show and share love.
A day to show a person you love what they really mean to you.
A chance to make someone smile and feel good.
Roses on the Windshield
Roses on the Windshield Day
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International Roses on the Windshield Day
Dear friends and Rose lovers,
It’s been nearly a year since the creation of Roses on the Windshield. Since the first facebook note I wrote, it’s been my goal and passion to spread this message about the importance of showing love.
August 25 is the one-year anniversary of Roses on the Windshield. During that time, I’ve undergone a major emotional and spiritual upheaval and growth in my life. With Roses always in the forefront of my mind, my behavior changed dramatically as I realized the depth of the message of love I was trying to communicate.
I began to realize the depth of the gift of love that we are given at birth as well as the impact we can have on our own lives and the lives of those we touch. I heard stories of love from many of you. Some made me smile and others contained tragedies that had me sobbing.
Rose stories of fun dates and laughter interspersed with Rose stories of the death of husbands, wives, children and other loved ones all had a common thread… Love.
Today is a very special day to me and Brenda as we announced the first International Roses on the Windshield Day, which will be August 25, 2009.
I’ve created video to tell you about it. Click on the Roses on the Windshield tab at the top of the page to see it.
I hope you join me in making the first Roses on the Windshield Day a very special day of love,
With Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Express your love by not assuming you know what they are thinking
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Have you ever assumed that the person you love should know what you are thinking – Even before you say anything?
Have you ever thought they should know what you want because they know you so well?
If so, how often are you right? I don’t know about you but, in my own experience, when I think I know what Brenda is saying, I’m typically wrong. Even when I’m close, it’s far enough off that I might as well be miles away. Many times in our relationship, it led to conflict, discomfort or arguments. What happens is that one of us tries to defend our assumptions. We want to be right and prove our reality is the “correct one,” even though it’s somewhat of an illusion. We end shoveling ourselves deeper into a hole.
What do we do to change this around for greater love and peace? I think it comes down to three things: 1. Don’t make assumptions; 2. Ask what the other person is feeling; 3. Tell them what we are thinking or feeling.
It really comes down to communications and it can be the difference between a conversation and a conflict.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Express love as if you were in a video and watching yourself
Posted by: | CommentsReality TV is an obvious genre that is going to be with us for some time. We watch with amusement, fascination and sometimes even unbelievable shock at the behavior of some of the people. We look at the TV and say, “OMG! I can’t believe he/she said/did that!!!
That’s where I am leading with today’s Rose. What if you were able to look at a reality show video of how you treated the ones you love? Would it make you smile or cringe? What if it was a video of an argument? Would you think, “That’s okay. I listened and had compassion and love.” Maybe not.
I’ll be the first to tell you that I wouldn’t always be proud of my videos. After all, imperfection, growth and learning are part of life. But to look at myself from a more objective viewpoint that a video may provide me may be a good lesson from which I could learn to be a more compassion and loving man.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
