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You are the Rose
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You’re probably familiar with the truism that to truly love, you must love yourself first. Love and cultivate the awareness of the creator within you as well as your inner beauty and value.
In The Book of Secrets, Deepak Choprah teaches us a meditation on a rose to uncover the creator within us.
Find a beautiful red rose and hold it in front of you. Smell and absorb the fragrance. Explore the complexity of the the unfolding petals. Softly stroke your cheek and neck . Say to yourself, “Without me this flower would have no fragrance. Without me, this rose would have no color. Without me, this flower would have no texture.”
As you remove yourself from the physical sensations, the rose is nothing but atoms and energy existing in the universe. It is your experience at this moment that creates the beauty of the rose. At this moment, this rose is nothing without you. With you, the rose fulfills its purpose… To be one with your inner beauty. Realize that you are the beauty of the rose. Beauty such as this is truly beauty worth loving, as are you.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Rose of the Day – Greeting Cards of Love
Posted by: | CommentsI recently wrote about placing greeting cards from Brenda and our daughters in my journal. Looking at them always brings me a smile and feelings of love. Carol Ann, who is a member of Roses on the Windshield, wrote to me to share the story below, which I hop you enjoy
*Thank you Paul! I do the same thing – only I hide them like an Easter egg hunt as I get them. In drawers all over the house. And then when I find them it’s such a treasure. I have some things my grown sons wrote when they were little & some cards my now deceased husband made & gave to me. Talk about “Precious Memories” they are more than a song!!!*
*Carol Ann*
Espress love with a smile when you get home
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A lot of times, we arrive home with the weight of the
day on our shoulders. Whether it’s from clients,
employees, kids, traffic or whatever may be on your
mind, it’s easy to be preoccupied and let feelings
created by external events impact how we feel about
our loved ones when we get home.
Several years ago, I started something new. Right
before I get out of the car and again before I turn
the handle of the do to walk in the house, I take a
deep breath and say to myself, “It’s great to be
here, I can’t wait to see Brenda.” I then smile a big
smile and turn the handle to walk in.
For me, this little ritual makes a remarkable
difference in the day. Give it a try for a couple of
weeks. I think you’ll enjoy the results.
With Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Rose of the Day – You are a Creator of Love
Posted by: | CommentsYou have within you the finest possible creator of love and it is the most wonderful of all privileges to support, nurture and encourage this creator.
Allow this Rose to first create love for yourself. From there, it will bloom, multiply and flourish in your life and in the lives of those you touch with your inner beauty.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Happy Roses on the Windshield Day
Posted by: | CommentsToday is August 25 and is the first Roses on the Windshield Day. I wish all of you love and happiness. Please take a moment to place a Rose on the Windshield of someone you love. If you can’t think of anybody immediately, go ahead and do something nice for a stranger AND yourself!
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul & Brenda
Rose of the Day – The Power of Your Words
Posted by: | CommentsWe must understand the power of what comes out of our mouths.
The words we use can not only have an impact on the feelings of others but may also have a lifelong impact. An insult or snide remark to a person already full of fears and insecurities may be internalized as a truth by them. A kind, gentle or loving comment may change their entire outlook on life.
When I was younger, I often was fairly free with words that could hurt. During those days, I also seemed to carry a lot more anger and insecurities. As I’ve gotten older and am more careful with my words and choose to use more positive and loving language, I find that I’m a lot more at peace with myself.
You may have heard the saying, “Be sure that your words run through your brain before they leave your mouth.” I think it’s good to also let them pass through our hearts.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Rose of the Day – In the Living Years
Posted by: | CommentsThis video is by Mike and the Mechanics. The founder of the band is Mike Rutherford, lead guitarist and one of the founding members of the band Genesis.
This song is about his wishing he had been able to come to terms with his father before he died. It’s one of my favorite songs. I really like the melody but the lyrics are incredibly powerful. For me, the lyrics go beyond the father-son relationship to our relationships with anybody we love.
The few times I’ve been at the bedside of a loved one, my final words were about the love and the feelings I had for the person. Others I’ve observed seem to be saying the same thing. If we are fortunate enough to have the chance to say final words, we do so.
What if the opportunity for final reconciliation never presents itself? How will the news affect me? Will I have regrets or will I feel some peace knowing the last words I said were along the lines of “I love you, I forgive you, I’m sorry, You are important to me” or some other positive words?
It seems that if our last words are harsh, there’s a good chance they may not be buried with the person, instead, they will continue to live in our hearts as regrets. At some time, we may realize we are forgiven, and always were.
Love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
PS – Maybe Roses on the Windshield Day is the perfect day to heal the wounds and start the habit of insuring the last words are ones we won’t regret.
The hardest thing to afford
Posted by: | CommentsSometimes, I’ll look back through my life and think of the all of the things
I may have purchased or accumulated. Many of them were planned purchases and I got others on the “spur of the moment.”
Some of them were inexpensive and others were fairly large investments. Some were great purchases and others raise the question, “What the heck was I thinking about when I got that?”
Overall though, no regrets, except for one thing…
That one thing is free, easy to get and sometimes hard to get rid of. When I do get rid of them, I’m much happier because I’ve become very aware that, even though they are free, they are also VERY expensive.
What I least afford is my Rose to you today and I hope it gives you a bit to think about. I can’t afford resentments.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
Rose of the Day – Can you change a dollar?
Posted by: | CommentsA thought struck me today as I was getting into the car that I wanted to share with you. It may not be up there with “Four score and seven years ago” but it may make you think!
Here we go!
“You can make change for a dollar but you can’t make a dollar change. A dollar is a dollar and always will be a dollar no matter how much you want it to change. You can however, make change for a dollar.”
The person you love or fell in love with is what they are. Because of our fears, judgments, preconceived notions and upbringing, we often have the idea of what they “should” be and that given time, we can change them.
More often than not, that leads to a lot of issues, stress, pressure and negative emotions as potential outcomes that can then lead to heated arguments, separation, divorce or worse.
We can however, make change for them. Maybe the change is accepting them without judgment, for what they are. Will we always be happy? Of course not!
In my experience, I’ve learned that the more I accept the differences without assumptions, judgment and the desire to change the other person, the happier I am. The more awareness I have that if I desire a change in another, I need to make the changes in myself.
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
The most prescious gift
Posted by: | CommentsI heard a quote today that I thought you would enjoy.
“Of all the gifts his maker has bestowed upon man, none is more precious than his ability to love another.”
With love and Roses on your Windshield,
Paul
PS – My good friend Harry Shade will be interviewing me on his radio show this evening to discuss Roses on the Windshield and Roses on the Windshield Day. I hope you can join us. Here are the details:
Blog Talk radio show, this Wednesday, 9/12/09, @ 10p, EST (GMT -4). http://tinyurl.com/lsh8jx or call in @ 914-338-0231 and share your “roses” story.
